The mainstream concept of being “bisexual” will be intimately interested in men and women.

The mainstream concept of being “bisexual” will be intimately interested in men and women.

That I identify as queer if you don’t really know me you may not know.

Folks are often amazed whenever we let them know we date females, too, because we can “pass” as being right. We don’t have actually the stereotypical markers of queerness that many people look out for in queer ladies: tattoos, quick locks, rainbows and Xena (hey Haydee!), flannel shirt, etc. (trust in me, I attempted the faux hawk thing plus it didn’t work with me!).

We identify as “femme” and I have and like it. My femme ness does not make me any less queer, radical, or feminist, because i will be exercising agency to determine just just exactly what queerness and womanhood appearance and feel like for me personally. In addition, stereotypes that expect lesbian ladies become butch, and homosexual guys to be feminine further perpetuate heteronormativity and erase the mandatory difference between sex identification and orientation that is sexual.